Love
What is Love? When asked this question, many people answer, well it's a feeling, others answer, it's an act. Why is it that some people can find true love at a young age while others take longer or some don't ever find it? Is it that they are too scared to take the risks involved in a relationship? You see all those people who move across the Country while others can't give up a weekend night to be with their so-called gf?
What do people consider love? Everyone goes through emotional feelings and feelings are very judgemental. Is love a sacrifice? I once was told that if you love someone, you would be willing to do anything for them...that is a conscious decision to do these things. You see all these people get divorces in the world today and is it that they do not know how to act on love? Has our society become so self-centered that we are unable to make these sacrifices for a loved one when the feeling is no longer there? Yes it would be perfect if we always had those lovey, dovey feelings but that's not reality. When those feelings are gone, is it our self-centeredness that causes us to break up? Is love not a decision you make?
Reflecting on my past relationships, I wonder..if I really loved the person, wouldn't I have tried harder to work it out? At what point do you say, you need to work things out or call it quits? Is it marriage? How does happiness play a role into this? When looking at marriages, several parents say they stay together for the kid's sake. Should their happiness really be sacrificed for the love they have for their kids? Do people actually stop loving people or is it that they no longer want to make these sacrifices for the relationship and therefore make the decision to no longer love them? Is our happiness not just a state of mind and it's our decision to make the best of the situation?
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I find it difficult to look in a girl's eyes and say "I love you." Everytime I feel like it, I look down and can only see the top of her head. - EBI MAKI
The way I see it, I have too much love in me to give to just one girl. - TUNA
Don't all your questions depend upon a single, hinging question? What kind of love are we talking about?
Clearly, Ebi Maki and Tuna are the fishy sort who speak only of physical love. Wait, no. Just lust.
But there are the bonds of love that hold families together, that keep couples together, that make people want to do those "acts of love", that make people want to sacrifice themselves.
you know there's no simple answer to your question. Love is different to everyone, there's different types of love and it's expressed differently too. Loving someone is different from being in love with them. My love for my familiy is unconditional, but i'm not in love with them.
I think our individual personality plays a big part too. Some believe that if you love someone you "let them go" others become psychotic if they lose their love.
I watched a little of Dr.Phill last night and what I don't understand is why some couples fight to fix their troubled marriage even though they no longer love eachother, while others easily give up?
I think love is much simpler when you're younger, there aren't many variables to complicate the emotions. It's like the first time you "dropped". You're constantly looking for that same high, but you may never get it again. But I'm a dreamer, and I think it can still happen.
I'd like to think that we can find that same first love too! But who knows, maybe the next one will be even better than the first.
The only love I'm willing to give is the one that lasts approximately 15-20 minutes and ends with a smoke. - TUNA
just reposting from my own livejournal:
cs lewis thinks "being in love is a good thing . . . but it is still a feeling . . . no feeling can be relied on to last to its full intensity . . . feelings come and go."
noting the high divorce rate, he explains that marital integrity requires a more "mature" love - "love as distinct from 'being in love' is not merely a feeling. it is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strenghtened by habit."
whether you buy that or not ...
~ jason
Love Will Tear Us Apart
-Joy Division
love is easy to find, but it's lost once you hide the salami. thank you very much, you are lucky notch 18 on the bed post!
-weeber
What's love got to do with it?
Love's like a second-hand emotion. - TINA
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